Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony – Siena

Marry Me in Tuscany was delighted to be asked to be the wedding planner for a 25th anniversary wedding vow renewal ceremony in beautiful Siena on the 11th of April.

Jon first contacted me a few weeks before their arrival as he’d had no luck locating a little chapel that would be perfect for the wedding vow renewal ceremony he was trying to organize as a surprise for his wife Nancy, such a thoughtful and romantic gesture that after 25 years together he wanted to celebrate their marriage and their family.

The great thing about my job is that I know where the little gems are and so the wheels were set in motion for their ceremony, pulling together my fabulous team to make sure they had a wonderful day, a wedding celebrant, photographer, flowers and transport.

Jon & Nancy with their daughter Amanda were travelling to Siena to visit their daughter Julia who had fallen in love with Siena on a previous trip and is now studying in this beautiful city so it was easy for Jon to arrange little surprises for Nancy along the way, their first stop was in France where Julia went up to meet them as a surprise for Nancy and Amanda and then they headed down to Siena to stay at the Grand Continental Hotel.

The morning of the ceremony the weather was just awful, thunder storms and heavy rain, so plan B was looking like it was going to be needed, but with the help of my twitter #sundance friends around the world we managed to coax the sun out for them in the afternoon.

Amy the fab wedding photographer from Imag1ne went to meet the family at 4.30pm and took them into Piazza Del Campo for some photos there before they were whisked away to Montestigliano to the small beautiful chapel which had been beautifully decorated with floral compositions of roses and hydrangeas and lots of candles to create a wonderful intimate setting for what was to be a very emotional ceremony.

As I sat at the back of the chapel and witnessed this very intimate family ceremony where Jon & Nancy renewed there wedding vows and had their rings blessed there were a few tears of pure joy to see such a united beautiful family express their love for each other and laughter when Nancy tried to put Jon’s new ring on the wrong finger!

I am so grateful to Jon & Nancy and their girls for allowing me to share their magical moment and hope that they have amazing memories of their very special celebration here in Tuscany. I hope that they have even more happy years of wedded bliss and hope to see them back again to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary as I’m sure that Siena and Montestigliano will always be a very special place for them.

Here are some beautiful images of the day taken by Amy … I hope you enjoy them.

Jackie x

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Jon & Nancy at the Grand Continental Hotel Siena
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The family with such beautiful blue skies in Piazza Del Campo, Siena

 

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Jon, Nancy, Julia & Amanda walk to the chapel at Montestigliano

 

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The family pose for photos in front of the main villa at Montestigliano
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The beautiful chapel at Montestigliano
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Nancy's beautiful bouquet
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gorgeous floral composition for the altar.
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The wedding vow ceremony
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Jon & Nancy

 

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Remind me which finger?
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The family light the unity candle
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The kiss!
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such a beautiful family... an intimate moment after the ceremony.

 

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The last photo! with the Tuscan countryside in the back drop the perfect way to end such a wonderful day.

 

Marry Me in Tuscany Loves – Don’t tell the bride

I’m happy to say that from my experience as a Destination wedding planner in Tuscany I’ve found that in recent years it’s been the groom that makes the first contact to ask for information about getting married here. Let’s face it we all have busy lives, and work, the home and social life can get in the way and the modern man is learning to take responsibility.

Once they have narrowed down several venues they will both come out and look at the potential venues and although the bride may have the final say they do talk to each other about the pros and cons of each venue according to their wish list and the guests that are coming to the wedding. During the planning process they then actively take joint decisions on what they want and divide up the individual elements so that each person has their role in creating their perfect day. Possibly a huge difference between weddings at home and weddings abroad is that both parties actively take part.

But as a romantic old softie and lover of all things to do with weddings I have to admit that I have become addicted to the BBC3 show Don’t Tell The Bride. The concept of the show is brilliant and the fact they are currently looking for couples to take part in Series 6 means that like me lots of people tune in to see whether the poor groom is going to pull off a wedding fit for his FW2B and if the B2B is going to throw her teddy out of the pram, she usually does, Fantastic TV!

For those of you how haven’t seen it, there is a couple, usually very strapped for cash and desperate to get married. The producers of the show Renegade Pictures give the couples £12,000 to spend on the wedding and in the presence of a solicitor they agree that they will have no contact for 3 weeks until the actual wedding day, so no phone calls, meetings, text messages oh and the groom gets to make all the decisions!

The thing that strikes me of all the couples on the show is that the girl that will openly tell the viewers that she wears the trousers, makes all the decisions, and generally thinks that the poor boyfriend has no clue about anything, pretty standard in a relationship I guess where us women think that there is only one way to skin a cat and that would be our way…thank you very much,,,but it does make you wonder why they’d  want to hand over the reins of organizing their most important day of their lives…but they do!

As one bride told her boyfriend before leaving, “don’t mess it up, it’s my day and you should make me happy” my jaw dropped but quick as a flash he replied “but it’s our day and we both should be happy” tearfully she replied “but if I’m happy you’re happy!” Absolutely no pressure then!

But I do think that quite often we ladies do forget that a wedding day is about 2 people becoming one, it’s a partnership and decisions should be made together, I love the Italian wedding ceremony as it focuses very much on the fact that you are a couple and decisions taken about your family life together should be made together, that you are both important in the relationship.

But back to the program! With a tearful goodbye, the bride generally moves out of the family home to stay with mum while the groom who is then joined by his best man sets about planning the wedding, which usually involving a trip to the pub and countless bottles of beer to pluck up the courage to face the task at hand of getting in touch with his feminine side and start planning the wedding.

The poor groom, who has often never been able to make a decision and probably has no idea about what the love of his life would want has to plan the wedding from scratch..but the thing I don’t understand is that if these girls have been planning their big day since they were little why don’t they share their ideas with their partner? To be honest it’s probably best that he hasn’t got a clue as he is then free to put his own stamp on the day and include his own personality rather than just turn up which is often the case in weddings organised solely by the bride.

The world is his oyster and he sets off to choose the venue, flowers, invitations, favors, cake, cars, hair & make up, colour scheme, entertainment, photographer, menus, his suit, hen and stag dos and most importantly the wedding dress, bridesmaids dresses shoes and accessories all in three weeks…god love him!

Meanwhile the bride is generally bitching about whether he’ll do a good job, looking at their dream location for the wedding which would probably blow the whole of the budget for the wedding alone trying on their perfect wedding gown and sobbing that if the dress he picks isn’t up to their liking then they’ll stamp their pretty little feet and refuse to wear it.

I know that it’s probably all part of the format of the show but why would you put yourself through all that…why would you go to a fancy smancy stately home when you know that you’re not going to get it, let alone afford it? And why oh why would you try on wedding gowns that are worth thousands of pounds when you want a wedding with a hundred guests and you have a budget of £12,000.. I know a girl can dream but I do think that some of these girls do need a bit of a reality check sometimes!

As the wedding day approaches the groom is often getting a little stressed bless him and having made the crack about becoming a professional wedding planner at the beginning of the program have come to the conclusion that there’s a lot of work involved in organising a wedding and they can’t wait to get back to work!

The feel good factor of the program is the wedding day itself, the poor groom is a nervous wreck usually rushing around putting the finishing touches to things, dropping off bridesmaid’s dresses and feeling sick with worry about whether she’s going to like everything he’s done. Generally they do and even surpass the expectations of the brides. Way to go boys! Many of the brides do admit that they probably wouldn’t have done such a good job. Hopefully they go into their new married life with a new respect for their partners and hand over some of the responsibilities that they so staunchly held onto before the groom showed what he was made of.

I take my hat off to all the grooms in the program and admire the girls that can admit that they did a fabulous job, and I love the girl that does the commentary her down to earth approach and funny comments make me laugh out loud. If you haven’t seen it then you must you’ll become hooked like me. It’s on BBC3 on Monday night at 8pm or like me you can catch it on BBCiPlayer.